For those who don’t know me well…I have something to share. Probably something many others can relate to.
I fought turning 30, and leaving my 20’s behind like nothing else.
Maybe it has something to do with wanting to hang on to the sense of freedom I thought I felt during that glorious decade that included college, starting a new life and having fun. Maybe it’s something else. But, regardless of what it is…I’ve been celebrating the “anniversary” of my 29th birthday for longer than I’d like to admit.
But the other day, after talking with a friend and just putting some thought into where life is right now, I realized something: the 30’s…they’re great!
It all started when I decided that I’d rather be comfortable in what I was wearing than worry about whether something was on trend. I opted for bright patterned leggings with a knotted t-shirt dress and sweater. To top it off? i decided to keep slippers on in the house for the day. Don’t worry…I’m not eliminating all other clothing for yoga pants; but, if I wanted to…why not?
I then put a little more thought and contemplation into it…and realized something really great: for the first time in my life, I’m starting to be able to think about my own passions, what I enjoy and what I want to put my time into…instead of focusing on everyone around me and worrying about how every step I made would be perceived by those around me.
Things I’ve realized:
- Yes. I love the beach. The ocean will forever call me. But…I enjoy a quiet mountain escape in a cottage with no internet connection just as much.
- It’s okay to wander.
- I can read 3000000 historical fiction novels and fall behind on current news topics; it’s okay!
- I don’t care about whether my yoga poses are Instagram worthy; I enjoy the practice for myself.
- If my kids show up at school in sweatpants, that’s okay. Certain things just aren’t worth the battle.
- I can enjoy what I do for a living without worrying about the rat race out there. There’s something to be said about that.
- I don’t have to feel guilty about needing a little time to myself. It’s not selfish, it’s restorative.
- My Christmas tree is still up and we’re nearing mid-January. I think it’s a time to continue the celebration, not pack it away…I’m not on anyone else’s deadline.
- I’d rather spend money on travel and experiences than “stuff,” and want to share that passion with my family. Memories are more important than ever.
Most importantly, perhaps…I’ve realized that it’s okay to just live. To follow what I believe, to pursue things as they come and to slow down, breathe and take it all in.
A few years ago, as I sobbed over leaving my 20th decade, I wish I could have felt this feeling. It feels like me…and it’s wonderful.
If you’re nearing a big change, a new decade, a new pace of life…don’t fight it. You might just love what’s around the corner!